A woman's guide to getting a Sexy, Shapely body

97% of all weight loss stories go like this..

Act I – Frustration

Woman is living her life. She eats purely as a matter of ingrained habit without much thought. Gradually thoughts about her body wake up from a slumber and take over her head.

These thoughts create stronger and stronger feelings until her motivation to lose weight peaks and she decides to lose weigh for an occasion like a wedding, a vacation, for the summer or just because she’s feeling fat.

Act II – Mission Accomplished

Woman buys the latest diet book. Woman starves herself for a few weeks and maybe does some jogging. She drops pounds and a dress size or two. In her mind she says “Mission accomplished!”

Life will be different now. She’ll wear sexy clothes and men will swoon over her. She’ll toy with all of them, but will take only the best offers. Looking in the mirror she’ll see a fit goddess.

Act III – The Fall

Woman doesn’t realize that her metabolism is destroyed because she approached her fat loss the wrong way. She lost mostly toned muscle and only a little bit of fat.

Woman is now getting cravings that are stronger than usual because she had been starving herself for weeks. She starts to eat more impulsively and starts to gain fat.

A few weeks later she is fatter and flabbier than she was before the diet. She can’t stand her image in the mirror and has to go shopping for new (BIGGER) clothes.

She gets depressed.

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But the other 3% of weight loss stories for like this…

Act I – Frustration

First act is exactly the same as above.

Act II -  Commitment

Instead of jumping on the latest trend, woman takes a step back and a moment to think. She reflects on her previous failures and wonders why this time should be different. She is tired and drained, but not broken by past disappointments.

She decides that if she wants different results, she’ll have to take different actions.

Instead of looking to her next vacation or to next summer, she looks 1 year ahead, 5 years ahead, and 25 years ahead. She decides that she wants to get in great shape and stay that way forever. So she can truly see a fit goddess in the mirror every morning for the rest of her life.

She makes a lifetime commitment to get this part of her life handled.

Act III – The Journey

Since this is now a lifetime goal, it’s okay if it takes a little bit longer to get in shape. What’s a few extra weeks to get to your goal when your time horizon is 5 years?

Woman focuses on forming good eating and exercise habits first and foremost. She favors techniques that she can keep up for the rest of her life instead of focusing on the quick fix.

She gets on a journey to find her personal balance of healthy eating vs. indulgence, exercise vs. leisure. She decides just how far she wants to push herself. Does she need to be a fitness model or can she just be healthy with a flat stomach?

She realizes that this balance will change as her life circumstance change. She decides to take the long-term journey.

Some time later she finds herself in great shape. Sometimes she is a few pounds heavier and other times she does look like a fitness model, she always looks good and feels sexy.

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Why does the first story and in failure, while the second story leads to success? Because you need to focus on winning the battle not the war. In the second story the heroine never says “Mission accomplished!” because she understands that it’s a mission that can never be fully accomplished. As long as she wants to stay sexy, she’ll have to keep her on the it.

Going on an aggressive diet is not necessary to get in good shape, but it can help you get into GREAT shape that’s above and beyond the call of duty. However, before you can go on a diet, you need to get a good handle on your cravings and you need to establish a solid foundation of eating habits and exercise rituals.

Why? Because once the diet is over you’re going to go back to whatever you did before the diet. And if you don’t have good eating habits, then you’ll go back to crappy eating habits that made you fat in the first place.

Most women think that they need to first lose the weight and then do something to keep it off. In reality, you need to do something to make sure you keep it off first, and then lose the weight. You need to lay the foundation that will help you keep off the weight before you lose it. That’s the secret to keeping it off once you lost it.

I want to see your story follow the successful script. I want you to be in the 3% of successful women who manage to keep it off forever.

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First of all, most diets HURT your fat loss and toning progress.

I’ve talked about this before, but here’s the extra-short version – most diets are unhealthy and cannot be maintained for more than just a few days or weeks.

You are forced to live in constant deprivation and hunger. You lose weight at first, but end up gaining it back plus some extra fat on top.

There’s no point trying to stick to a stupid diet like that.

So, the first thing to do is to find a sensible diet that you can follow forever without constantly depriving yourself and feeling hungry.

Once you’ve found a smart diet that gets results, nothing happens unless you can STICK with it.

So, let’s talk about that.

The critical moment for sticking with any diet is your first few slip-up. And you WILL have sip-ups.

Most of the women who can’t stick with a diet make one or both of these two mistakes…

>>> Mistake 1

Say you’re following the diet in my [[pre ebookname]] e-book.

But there’s a birthday celebration at the office and all that cake is very tempting. You give in and have a piece of cake or two.

STOP.

This is a critical moment. What you do next can be the difference between a sexy bikini belly or more suffering because you can’t lose the flab.

First, realize that it’s not the cake that’s the problem. The cake is okay. You’re allowed to indulge sometimes.

It’s what happens after the cake that causes most of the damage.

Usually, the guilt kicks-in and you start saying all kinds of negative (and untrue) things to yourself.

Things like:

“I suck. I have no self-control. I’m doomed to be fat forever.”

And on and on, all because of one little diet setback.

Before you even considered it, you decided that the cause of the setback is PERMANENT.

You decided that it will persist and always be there to affect your life.

You decided not only that you had a setback in that particular situation, but that you’ll ALWAYS have setbacks.

This is SELF-DESTRUCTIVE. Here’s what you should do instead…

See your slip up for what it truly is: a single instance of a diet setback that will NOT determine your future.

Be nice to yourself: You slipped up once, but that doesn’t mean you’ll always slip up.

Besides, with a sensible diet, there should be room for a few slip-ups each week.

Nobody’s perfect.

>>> Mistake 2

Here’s the other mistake you can make…

Say you ate that cake. The natural thing most women want to do is try to eat as little as possible at their next meal to make up for the calories they ate earlier.

Sometimes they even want to SKIP the next meal completely.

I know it seems to make sense, but don’t do this! Here’s why…

It will just put your further off-track.

When you eat too little or skip meals, you stress your body. Your body responds by releasing stress hormones and this creates cravings.

Eventually it will turn up the cravings so high that you won’t be able to resist and it will end in a binge.

The next time you have the slip-up and eat the cake, don’t stress it and at your next meal. Just eat exactly what you would have eaten if you never had the cake.

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