Let’s Talk About Sex

I’d like to talk about a touchy subject with you.

Sex.

If you don’t feel comfortable with that or think you might be offended, I understand. Please, just delete this email right now.

The reason I bring this up is that many women have shared with me that one big emotional reason they want to get in shape has to do with sex.

And whenever there’s a strong emotion you’re experiencing, it’s a good idea to tune in to it and use it for motivation!

Onward.

Do you think feeling comfortable is important for good sex?

I think so too.

I think you need to be comfortable with your partner, but first you need to be comfortable with yourself.

So how comfortable are you with yourself?

Many women have told me things like: “I don’t feel comfortable getting naked in front of my partner. We always keep the lights off.”

Here’s what one woman told me: “I feel like I’ll never get any intimacy because no one want ‘this thing’ and it makes me feel inadequate, useless, and unloved. What would you say to someone like me?”

Wow. Thank you for sharing.

I really feel your pain.

Let’s talk about what you can do…

One thing I learned over the years of coaching women is that I can’t help everyone. Not everyone is at the point where they can accept help.

As bad as this sounds, the women who are in most pain when they start are the ones who often get the best results and change their lives.

This happen because pain can be a very strong motivator if you just tap into it. Here’s how…

You have to reach a certain “breaking point” where you say to yourself: “I am going to do whatever it takes to get this part of my life handled.”

That’s step one.

Step two is to use emotion to fuel your drive to get a sexy body.

For example-

If you don’t like you partner touching your hips when you’re in your underwear because you feel ashamed, think about the situation to motivate yourself to workout.

I don’t think this a good thing to do long-term, but it’s the best thing you can do the get the ball rolling.

Try this right now…

In your mind’s eye see that situation that causes you pain. Play it out as a movie and make it as vivid as possible, as if you are actually there.

Next, play another movie where you look your absolute best. You feel look and feel sexy and full of confidence.

Doesn’t it just give you a feeling of “I am going to do it this time!”?

Good.

But as you probably know this feeling is temporary. It will go away soon.

So, you have to keep your motivation going.

I developed a method I call the Motivation Snowball to do just that. Here is the quick version…

You start out by getting yourself motivated by connecting to a negative emotional experience like we just did earlier.

The next step is to take ACTION in the direction of your goal. You can make a healthy meal or do a workout., for example.

The only way this is going to work is if the action you take actually gives you a result. Because then you FEEL the link between the action and the result you want.

So, if it’s a workout that you did, then you learn to love working out because it gets you the result you want.

Again, the most important piece is that the actions actually deliver a RESULT.